A Journey of Love
The study of Conscious Sexuality is a journey of love composed of three central experiential layers – the Physical sexual experience, the Emotional sexual experience and the Energetic-Spiritual sexual experience.
The physical sexual experience is composed of (i) awareness of the physical body; (ii) becoming acquainted with the sex organs and the attendant hormonal physiological function; (iii) relating, through awareness, to enjoyable sensations, which may be strongly and openly embraced; (iv) awareness of the relationship between body and its psychology and releasing the body of shame and guilt.
The emotional sexual experience allows us to become closer to each other through emotional expressions such as caring, listening, tenderness and affection. When emotional bonding saturates our sexual expanse, we tend to experience deep and gentle sexual pleasure; it enables the merger of hearts and bodies.
Various challenges will most probably arise as we embark on the emotional journey. These may include manifestations like feeling that the heart is closing and numb, the tendency to become either a victim or aggressor, our exaggerated fixation on insisting that the ‘other’ will fulfil all of our emotional needs. The journey towards healing the heart is a gentle process. It is through gradual and deepened acceptance to connect with our inner pain that we are able to be freed of stale and lingering old emotional burdens that have engraved in us fears, tightness and mistrust in others. In our healed form, we relate to the powerful, open and loving woman within and discover the generous, present and loving man we were intended to be.
The third layer of Conscious Sexuality is the Energetic-Spiritual one, through which the intimate encounter puts us in touch with tranquility and serenity in which one may rest and receive infinite inner nourishment. At the spiritual plateau the motivation for a sexual encounter is not sensual or emotional satisfaction, but the discovery of the unified and whole inner self.
Development as a Way of Life
Conscious Sexuality is a process of constant evolution toward a fuller and greater expression of who we really are. The first step is the mere agreement to meet our body and our sexuality as they are right now; The second step, is the willingness to share with a close individual — a partner for instance — feelings, emotions, thoughts and desires that arise in our emotional and sexual inner space; the third step is attentiveness, that could occur in each and every moment in every intimate encounter. Its motive is our desire to be present, empowered and loving. The constant yearning to realize love is like calling love to revel itself to us and teach us more about intimacy, and having one’s heart connect with his or her body.