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Empathy and Boundaries in Relationships<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div><\/div>[vc_empty_space height=”18px”][vc_column_text]\n
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I was asked about the line between empathy<\/strong> and maintaining my boundaries<\/strong> in a relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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I can only be empathetic when the space is safe.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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A safe space is a place where I can fully express my desires, fears, and needs<\/strong>. It doesn’t mean that everything happens according to my will; it simply means that I have the freedom<\/strong> to be my authentic self, open, and uncomplicated.<\/span><\/p>\n

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A safe space is where I can clearly define my boundaries<\/strong>, and those I am with respect them as they are.<\/span><\/p>\n

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If the space is not safe and I choose to be empathetic, it becomes an emotionally violent space, a space that perpetuates trauma and self-harm<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Creating a safe space is a two-fold process:<\/span><\/p>\n

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Firstly<\/strong>, internally, I am committed to being honest, open, and real with myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Secondly<\/strong>, externally, I listen and assess what is feasible for me to give and receive within the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

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If my boundaries are crossed<\/strong>, it is my responsibility to myself to pause and re-evaluate everything. I need to ask for clearer boundaries and test them again.<\/span><\/p>\n

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If who I am is not respected, and I am not allowed to think and feel differently and simply be myself, it is again, my responsibility to pause and re-evaluate everything. I need to ask for clearer boundaries and test them again.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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A relationship is a gradual growing capacity of listening, empathy, honesty<\/strong>, physical presence, and closeness<\/strong>. While it holds infinite potential, not everyone I encounter truly nurtures me.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The ability to distinguish between beneficial relationships and those that are not, is a skill acquired through a deep connection and relation to our innermost self.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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