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How should I touch my partner
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I received a question this morning:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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How should I touch my partner when we are intimate in bed, at the beginning, before any\u00a0 sexual contact? My partner wants us to take things slowly<\/strong>, for me to touch her with love\u00a0 and not directly in a sexually way, and it’s difficult for me. It’s challenging both because I’m\u00a0 attracted<\/strong> to her and because, objectively, it’s difficult when she’s naked (even if she’s\u00a0 covered with a blanket). Additionally, I’ve come to realize that my approach doesn’t work.\u00a0 I’m not lashing out; I just struggle to touch her without it being sexual when we are\u00a0 together.”\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Possible answer<\/strong>:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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This is a profound question that revolves around the man’s ability to maintain a pure\u00a0 frequency<\/strong> of intimacy that is non-sexual<\/strong> and built on friendship, rhythm, and trust at the\u00a0 beginning, without allowing it to become erotic or sexual before the woman is ready for it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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It’s akin to tending a real bonfire, ensuring it doesn’t exceed the boundaries<\/strong> I set for it in\u00a0 order to prevent the forest from burning.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Man = fire keeper<\/strong>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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There is a dual meaning here.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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The fire = represents sexual energy.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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For many men, their sexual journey is the journey from being driven by animalistic instincts\u00a0 to becoming more human.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Lust (here, now, quickly, must)<\/span><\/p>\n

Transformed into love<\/strong> (calm, quiet, attuned to a woman’s needs)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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It is a long and profound spiritual journey that begins with the choice to be born, to\u00a0 embrace humanity<\/strong> at the deepest level, so that the woman feels safe<\/strong>, loved, and seen. It’s a\u00a0 choice that needs to be made every day. It’s not a one-time decision.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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You lead at her pace, her rhythm.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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This is the music you need to learn<\/strong>, moment by moment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Most of the journey is emotional and internal. It requires the man to choose personal\u00a0 growth, moving away from his animalistic nature towards his humanity,<\/strong> for the sake of the\u00a0 relationship, his daughters, and the world.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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If the man approaches the woman primarily driven by lust<\/strong>, in most cases, she will withdraw\u00a0<\/strong> because she doesn’t feel the emotional security to be sexual at her own pace (with\u00a0 exceptions when she is also at a similar frequency).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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It’s a journey from your heart to hers, repeatedly.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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This journey is not easy because the mind is filled with noisy thoughts, feelings, and\u00a0 fantasies<\/strong>. It requires daily practice<\/strong> of skills such as meditation, yoga, healing past traumas,\u00a0 cultivating self-love, and conscious communication.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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There is so much more to say, but these are some initial thoughts.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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