My vagina is naturally wet. Her moistness varies according to the changes in my menstrual cycle. It’s pleasant for me to tune in and feel her directly throughout different times in the month.
When I connect with her, I learn that moistness and dryness are a result of various factors, such as the clothes I wear (with or without underwear, for example), my hormonal state (my menstrual cycle), and the nature of my relationship with her (through touch, vision, smell and flavour).
The deeper my relationship with my vagina becomes, the more responsive and precise she is to me in her desire for touch, to a certain type of fabric that’s pleasant for her, and other very specific requests that have to do with nutrition, breathing, etc.
My vagina communicates with me.
Do I listen to her?
Today, I’m very attentive to her.
It hasn’t always been that way.
I’ve learned to listen to her after I’ve suffered itchiness, and yeast infections for several years, I could not figure out the reasons behind it. I treated it as a problem. Until one day, thanks to several therapists who had been assisting me, I realized she was speaking to me.
The vagina was communicating with me.
The vagina communicated me.
When she was itchy / dry / infected / hurt – her message was usually loud and clear.
She was telling me: I don’t want sexual contact, not like this, not now, there’s something that you must learn from me about pace, communication, authenticity in the sexual space, about inviting a penetration – at the right time, only at the right time.
Ever since I started listening to my vagina (about 13 years ago) my vagina is much wetter.
I don’t use lubricants on my vagina, so I don’t mask my authentic sensations.
A dry vagina, to me, is a vagina that says, “not now”, “not like this,” you can enjoy sex and sexuality, but without any penetration at the moment. Give me some time.
My vagina taught me that even when she’s warm and moist, is doesn’t mean that she necessarily wants penetration at the moment. Because penetration for me and her, are a connection between the vagina and heart, and that is what I call “the right moment” for me.
The words written above refer to me, a woman who still has her menstrual cycle (at times regular, and at times irregular).
When I think about the discourse about the topic among fertile women, I find a different kind of complexity. It’s important that the woman has natural lubricants as needed, and that the lubricant is used harmoniously with the heart’s desire, and not as a way to go around my vagina’s true desire.
I don’t deny the need of using lubricant for those who feel they need it for any reason whatsoever (personal, medical, emotional, pregnancy, etc.)
The connection between a woman (or a man) to her body is sacred, and what may be right for one woman, is different for another.
With sincere Love.